Wednesday, March 21, 2012

Closing The Weave

I really did step back from my mare, and it's been a strange kind of hard work to do it. I wrote about needing time to let a bad horse year go and begin another one fresh. Then I imagined an encircling winter, the kind that brings to mind weathering it out on an 1800s prairie, living the punishing days by rote until the thaw. For me, there's renewal in that kind of waiting. What I imagined isn't quite how it went, though. There have been too many days of mildness and the weather has disoriented me in my own thinking. It's like it's summer and I've already lost the spring, squandered the spring. At least, I have those shimmers of guilt.


Then I found this amazing picture. It's not possible to say all that I see in it, all that I think about it. I can say it really stirred me up. How she clutches that horse to her, how she hunches protectively, the tension plain to see. I felt like that a couple of times last year. Her fierceness - I felt that. The sweet compliance of her mare even reminds me of my own.

Once I had a horse, Scout, who was attuned to every tension in my body. It wasn't a good thing for us as a team under saddle, but it was oddly validating, a kind of direct proof that things were going on in me, in my life. She could remind me of how bad I felt, how wound up I was with the churning of things. She reflected it and that brought us close together. I don't have that with Saxony; she's not that kind of horse. I have to bring myself down to be with her, drop out of my head, come closer to simplicity. It's really hard. She wants her rubs, her dawdles, her German muffins, our gazing eye to eye. She doesn't know that I'm a mind-rooted existentialist and she doesn't feed off my auto-cues of anxiety and doubt, either unwitting or overt. It means she can never become part of my drama unless I drag her there. I know that is a good thing, but I also know that's why it's taking me so long to come back to her. I am trying to discard things in my life I don't need or want anymore, trying to discard those things from myself.

My mare may be unbalanced, but she travels easier in herself right now than I, who can walk a straight line effortlessly but still struggle to get out of my own way.

7 comments:

Grey Horse Matters said...

Saxony sounds like she's one very special mare who can help you come back to yourself. To a time when perhaps you were less anxious and less doubtful about your abilities. Just spending time with a special horse like this may be all it takes to turn things around.

Sandra said...

I have a friend, an instructor, who says that we often get the horse we need in our life. It's so interesting when you think about the reasons why we go for a horse, why we choose them or they choose us.
How wonderful that Saxony is a horse that will show you where to go.

Fetlock said...

Learning how to get out of our own way is a very valuable skill. When things aren't going well (especially if it's a long-term problem) we sometimes run out of homo sapiens friends that will listen to us recite our troubles (again). So I understand what it means to miss that validation from your horse...but Saxony is probably her own kind of special guru.

Great photo.

Wolfie said...

Love the fierceness of that young lady in the photo. I think you and Saxony are a good match. You fill in the spaces for each other. She will help you on your journey of discovery.

Story said...

Our horses teach us so much.

June said...

Oh, just wait. I bet Saxony has all kindsa stuff to tell you.

Rising Rainbow said...

I just finished reading Tao of Equus. Your post reminded me of that book and it's explanations of the healing horses can do for us and we can do for them. It's an interesting perspective and has made me look closer at some things I have experienced with the horses in my life.